For a while now, I have been trying to figure out what I want and having a very hard time defining what I want and I think I am finally realizing that I have been conditioned to want "things" and I am starting to become dissatisfied with "things". Don’t get me wrong, I have had a lot of things in my life and I have manifested a lot of things in my life.
For example, at one time, I desired a BMW 7 series car and I manifested one. I loved driving it. The BMW 7 series is a wonderful car to drive, but it felt like a bit much of a car for me. I was always worried about it getting scratched or hit or what people were thinking about plain old simple me in this nice fancy car. I then manifested a BMW 5 series and felt much more comfortable in the 5 series over the 7 series. Yes, I know the 5 series is not as nice at the 7 series and I miss the 7 series, but I feel more comfortable in the 5 series.
What is it about what I want that I really want? In thinking about that question, I am starting to realize that what I really want is the experiences, feelings, or memories that I am getting from the wanting. At one time, I had a bigger house on a multi acre property. It was a wonderful house, but what I really loved about that house was the memories that I have from living there, like the parties that we hosted at that house with friends and family, the animals that would show up from time to time, and the peacefulness I had sitting on the back deck at the end of the day. My most special memory was the wedding we hosted for my niece.
Now, if I look at what I want from the experiences, feelings or memories that those things will get me, I can now easier see what I want and stop fighting the thoughts that I am not enough to have them. With that in mind, I would like to have a bigger house. Why? I want to entertain and have people over. I would like to have an SUV. Why? I want to be able to tote stuff around to do things, like camping, hiking, and biking. I would like to travel. Why? I want to see new places in the world and have new experiences. I would like to have the latest iPhone. Why? Just because I am a geek - yes, being really honest here.
What would I like to do? I love being a speaker, because I love sharing ideas that I am passionate about. I love being a coach, because I love to help people through their issues (which helps me through my issues). I love solving problems, because I have to stretch my understanding to solve the problems. I love being an author, because I love to write and share my thoughts. I love learning and experiencing new things, because I feel expansive when I have learned or experienced something new.
Having looked at what I want from what I get from wanting it, I am starting to feel much better and I can start to really connect with what I want. Do I have everything I want here and how I will feel about it, not quite. It is a start and something for me to continue to explore.
How does this feel for you? Does it make you look at what you want and feel differently? Do you want the same things, or something different? Let me know what you think below.
It is really no “Secret”. Manifesting a desire for a material “thing” or goal, is the first step to achieving it. To quote the Mental saying from the novel Dune. “It is by will alone I set my mind in motion”. The funny thing is that many people “wish” for things but far few people actually achieve these goals and things by setting their minds in motion and breaking down what they must do to attain their objective – whatever it might be.
“I love sharing ideas that I am passionate about. I love being a coach, because I love to help people through their issues (which helps me through my issues). I love solving problems, because I have to stretch my understanding to solve the problems.” Isn’t It Beautiful?!! Nice behavior and beautiful way of thinking.
How does this feel for you? Does it make you look at what you want and feel differently? Do you want the same things, or something different?
I’m not officially a mentor for anyone. But, I always encourage friends to have a decent purpose in life. Money and things are not everything, they cannot be the purpose for human beings life.
In fact, I have this quote in my personal email as part of my email signature to remind me of my life purpose “The purpose of human life is to serve and to show compassion and the will to help others” ~ Albert Schweitzer
As a security specialist, I keep trying to include my purpose within my work activities. I strongly believe that my clients need honest assessments and not only copy/paste, they need to know the actual risk. Simply, I pay attention to things that can make me serve clients better. The things in my brain can be like: What is the most effective solution?
In fact, I’m a big fan of Robert Herjavec (the shark) and I think the group will grow bigger and bigger with great leadership skills, and beautiful and positive way of thinking like yours 🙂
It’s difficult to resist the temptation of owning a new/bigger house, new car etc. I am a young guy and can relate to some of your thoughts and experiences. How likely is that you may have thought the same way when you were in late twenty? As we mature life prospect change but, when you are still young these materialistic things entices you.
I am yet to read your book and plan to buy it soon.